Are we complaining ?

Are we complaining ?
About anything and everything – weather, life, health, people, things that have not gone right.
And we are in this mode without even realizing it.
What should we do?
Well, for starters, know that you hold the “remote control”.
Which is – your choice – to focus on what you can change or do to make things right or better. Whenever you are having a really bad day, bring in – perspective.
Check the silver lining with the cloud.
Bring appreciation into your life.
Establish the “No Complaining Rule”.
This is a lot easier for people who have to listen to you.
Surprise yourself.
Bring joy.
Seek happiness.
Life is so much better than is seen.
“We were put into this world of wonders and beauty with a special ability to appreciate them, to enjoy life – that is, to be happy.” – Robert Baden-Powell
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Freedom is in our mind

Did you just say you have no choices? No options? Are you feeling caged?

Freedom is in our mind, my friend. Think about it. What is that you are clinging to? That is making you feel trapped. Attitude? Belief? Perception?

People want to be their nicest thriving self. Life doesn’t work that way. Our old behaviours and thinking itself creates obstacles. This plays out over and over. Limiting the range of thought may seem normal,  but such beliefs perpetuate the pattern of settling for our a little lesser, and then some more. Ultimately, we are moving the other way. We desperately need to break away from the past. Move forward and achieve what we are capable of.

Teach your brain that you own it. It must not command you.

Can you not set your mind free? Spread your wings and fly.  Out of the cage. Into the open sky.

You will probably find that the door is always open, and you were never caged. The traps were illusions created by your mind. It was your choice. It is your choice. It will always be your choice. Doubt it and you could still be in the cage. Believe it and you should soar free. It’s in your mind, it’s your choice.

“We are not animals. We have the power of choice.”Stephen Covey

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Mother, the essence

“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” – Abraham Lincoln

A timeless subject for poets across cultures, across ages. Mother, the essence. For continuity of life as we know it.

We know that knowledge and wisdom is propagated through the teacher – disciple connect. The mother – child connect is far deeper. This relationship lasts lifelong. It’s deeper than a bond. And more often than not, words fail to touch the deep essence of the connections.

J.K. Rowling related this as a protective shield which stays with Harry throughout. But isn’t it true for every mother in every form? The one entity in the universe who cannot ever think anything wrong for her children.

We owe her everything! But, we take this for granted. No ?

Then there is mother earth. Our living mother, from which arise all living creatures on this planet.

We owe her everything! But, we take this for granted. No?

Once this is established, we should also understand that all consciousness ( souls ) arise from one singular entity. Somewhere in this vast universe  trillions of stars and planets. Every galaxy, every star, every planet, every speck of dust. The one entity which is mother to everything. How can that entity ever think of anything wrong for us. Whom we sometimes refer as God. But we never realise what is God.

We owe her everything! But, we take this for granted. No?

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Let go …

Everything happens for a reason. Acknowledge that. Accept that.
All the past events that occurred have culminated to bring us to this moment, where we stand today.
Once more. At a crossroads. The perennial question. Choice. Always. Over and over. Again and again. This or that. Here or there. Why or why not. ‘To be or not to be’.
All the moments that have passed. Making choices. Deluding ourselves to believe that it is our choices which brought us where we stand today.
What if ….
we choose to let go,
we will ourselves to move on,
we consciously release the control,
we detach from the desire of outcome,
we relinquish the right,
we accept ‘Whatever will be, will be’.
Could it be that what happens next will be different? Is not letting go, a choice? Moving on, a choice. Releasing, a choice. Accepting, a choice?
Whatever we believe, the power to make a choice is a conundrum, humanity has to live with. Ergo, the only thing that remains is whether we make the right choice. The beautiful twist here is that inherently, each and every one of us, knows right from wrong. And at every given moment we can truly choose the right over the wrong. Alas, humanity has coloured itself in so many layers of separation, cloaks of biases, we have started believing everything is about me, not we. I not us.
We need to trust in the process of life, that there is a favourable wind that will steer our ship correctly, when we let go.  As men are meant to be sailing the river of life, not stay anchored at the Port.
No matter how dark the situation, let us always believe in the voice, inside us, to make the right choice. And everytime you trust that voice, you make the right choice. And with each right choice, the voice gets stronger and your ship moves forward. In the right direction. Towards the true goal.
Sometimes all you can do is accept there’s not much you can do. And sometimes all you can control is how well you let go control.” – Lori Deschene
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Cause and Effect.

Cause and Effect. Unending cycles. Universally accepted law. How do we truly realize that significance. Many would have us believe that, humans are toys created by God – for his enjoyment. How utterly naive.
God has not made us just his playthings. He has given us freedom – to choose. Between right and wrong, between good and bad, between joy and despair, between positives and negativity – every moment of our life.
Why then, are we letting our life run on autopilot mode? With hardly any conscious acknowledgement. Falling into patterns, unbreakable spirals and loops. Subconsciously, repeating the same but expecting changed results. Awaiting different effect.
Take a few moments to pause, reflect, think. What did you just do? The action. Was it conscious or reflex? Active thinking or reactive?
Know and believe. You can stop. You can change. You have the choice. You don’t have to blindly follow the emotional and mental dictates arising from habits and reactions.
Create your future. You are responsible for the effect. And therefore you can influence the cause. Changing the course of the next cause – effect cycle.
It is all your thoughts and your beliefs and your active conscious awareness ! 
“Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Inspired by Bodhi Shuddaanandaji
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It won’t, if you will it

Do you find yourself feeling anxious?
What is anxiety?
Not knowing what the future will bring us is anxiety. But why do we fret over this. Because, anxiety stems from worry. And worry is the repository of the past. Worries are those un-manifested ‘what ifs’.
Either, they never happened, in which case, there should be no cause for worry. Even if something did happen, was it really that bad? Worry is that formless fear, related to past events, imagining worst case scenarios, and magnifying them to levels they unfathomable. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of loneliness, fear of isolation. It’s not like anything happened. It’s only that, we have convinced ourselves, ‘it will’. Leading to anxiety. Anxiety, therefore becomes the possible manifestation of the worry that may be.
Ask yourself,
‘Is this really true?,
Can it be true?,
How many of my past worries have come true?’.
Now, add in some happy and optimistic thoughts. Give yourself a choice. And a chance. Spend more time with optimism. With nice thoughts. Happiness. The future is a cheerful place. Today is better than yesterday. Now, where is the time to worry? There is no worry, no anxiety if you don’t give place to it. Anxiety won’t, if you will it so.
“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs.” – Wayne Dyer
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The Right Way

With so many ways in which one can do the same thing, how does one choose the right way, first up? The answer to that is simple. You can, but should you?
I mean, if all those great people – not just, scientists and inventors, but everyone who did anything new – had opted to carry on doing it – right way, straight away – we might not have had anything different in life. And like the stones and rocks, our consciousness would have eventually subsided to doing nothing. Ever.
Fact remains that there in no one method of doing things. Machine operating instructions, aside. And definitely there is no permanently ‘right’ way.
Let’s take the potato for example. Across the world potato is a popular vegetable and definitely cooked in countless different ways. If we have discovered more than one way of cooking potatoes, perhaps there is more than one approach to most, if not all, other things in our life. We enjoy potatoes as fries, chips, boiled or mashed; therefore, ‘variety is the spice of life’. Indeed, if we only ever ate the potato in one style, we may soon lose the joy of the dish and the vegetable.
It would be infinitely more beneficial to think of the enjoyment of doing things, rather than the stressful worries of doing ‘right’. Be open to what other ways you can experience as the right way. Explore the options.
“If you’re not doing something different, you’re not doing anything.” – Sam Phillips
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Harmony – Flow Of Life

Harmony does not only mean music. It describes the quality of forming a pleasing and consistent whole. Across spectrums. Apart form the commonly known harmony in music, we can have harmony in art, in colours, in architecture, in schematics, in spoken words, in the jostling senses of your body. Harmony is balance, symmetry, consonance, coordination, blending, correspondence and compatibility. Harmony is also concord, agreement, peacefulness, amicability, co-operation, understanding and unity. Harmony is a noun that describes an agreement, such as in feeling, sound, look, feel, or smell. It’s necessary for roommates to be able to live in harmony in a small space. Harmony is when one feels happy. Harmony is getting along together. Harmony is being nice others. Harmony is the flow of life.

We tend to feel annoyed when something undesirable happens. In such situations, first, we have to learn to be aware. And to acknowledge how we are feeling. Second, we ask why exactly are we feeling annoyed? Is it really because of what someone said, or is it because they did not say what we wanted them to? Is our anger really due to what someone did, or the false belief that others should do as we want?

A big ‘virus’ that causes us to experience the disease of anger is the lie that others should do as we want them to do. If we did not think this way, would we get angry if others did not act as we wanted them to?

There must be harmony in our thoughts, speech and deeds. What we think, we do not speak. And what we speak, we do not perform. We think and utter words of virtues but do not have that courage to implement them. Harmony is when there is no contradiction in actions.

The truth is that we are all free spirits. We do not control others, nor do they control us. We need to recognize that like musical notes we are all different. Only then we are able to create harmony. And with others, we can create a beautiful tune.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

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Desire

To strongly wish for or want something is Desire. According to the Rig Veda, the Universe began, not with light, but with desire, ‘the primal seed’. Desires constantly arise in us, only to be replaced by other desires. Without this continuous stream of desires, there would no longer be any reason to do anything: life would grind to a halt, as it does for people who lose the ability to desire. An acute crisis of desire corresponds to boredom, and a chronic crisis to depression.

We were born from desire. But cannot remember a time when we were without it. So consumed are we to ‘desiring’, that we lose consciousness of our desires. And only realize when they clash with other desires.

If desire is life, why should we desire to control desire? —For the simple reason that we desire to control life, or, at least, our life. Paradoxically, our ancient religions almost always warned us that ‘Desires’ are the cause of conflicts.

In Hinduism, Desire is referred to as the ‘destroyer of knowledge and self-realization’. The Second Noble Truth of Buddhism states that the cause of all suffering is ‘lust’, ‘coveting’ or ‘craving’. Even Christianity, presents that four of the seven deadly sins (envy, gluttony, greed, and lust) directly involve desire. Rituals such as prayer, fasting, and confession all aim at curbing desire.

Suffering can be traced back to desire. Fear and anxiety can be understood in terms of desires about the future. Whereas, anger and sadness relate to desires about the past.

Desire is not only hurtful, but its outcome even more so. The accumulation of material wealth – houses, cars, and other riches rob us of our time and peace. You think that acquiring things will make you feel secure, but the reality is that the more you have the more fear for losing it. This continually drags you further and further away from the peace your soul is yearning for. An excess of desire is called greed. Because greed is insatiable, it prevents us from enjoying what we already have. The greater problem of greed is that it is all-consuming, reducing life to nothing but an endless quest for more. To want something and not get it leaves you feeling frustrated. Learning to be free from desire is learning how to be peaceful. Desire causes peace to disappear.

No sooner is one desire fulfilled, people formulate new desires. The problem is that our desires evolved ‘merely’ to promote our survival and reproduction. They did not evolve to make us happy or satisfied, to ennoble us, or to give our life any meaning beyond them. Today, survival is no longer the most pressing issue. Yet here we still are, chained to our desires like a slave to his master.

“Our desires always disappoint us; for though we meet with something that gives us satisfaction, yet it never thoroughly answers our expectation.” – Elbert Hubbard

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Feeling anxious? Nothing to fret over.

To feel anxious when one attempts something new is natural, it becomes a problem though when it stops us from achieving our goals. When it grows into a feeling that we just don’t seem to be able to shake off.

Mistakes are a big cause of anxiety. We all make mistakes. It is natural. The trick is to learn from them. Ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this? How can I learn from this?

‘Make Mistakes’ might be a goal worth considering. At the least, it deserves to be called a New Year resolution. Why? As Einstein said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” Mistakes are the essence of learning. As people encounter new things and develop new skills, they will make mistakes. Mistakes or failure must not be seen as incompetence but as growth challenges – necessary for learning.

Mistakes must become opportunities to learn and grow. Have the courage to say to yourself – ‘I am going to practice thinking differently’. Although, learning from mistakes cannot be automatic, we can teach ourselves that they are an important part of the learning process. How many things you know were actually invented by mistake – Penicillin, Fire-crackers, Velcro, Potato Chips, X-ray images, even Plastic and Ice-cream!

Having some fear of mistakes might be a good thing as it may actually help performance enhancement. But excessive fear could cause problems. Avoiding fear-provoking situations, social meetings – dating, presentations, etc., and procrastinating about not being able to complete a task.

A helpful tool to overcome mistakes is – Repeated and frequent practice. Over time, you start to feel more comfortable with making mistakes. Don’t be discouraged if your anxiety doesn’t lessen right away, this is normal and expected. Keep trying and repeating as frequently as you can.

Never think that you cannot conquer your anxiety. You can. Just imagine a life without anxiety.

Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” -Charles Spurgeon

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