Posts Tagged With: choice

Are we complaining ?

Posted on June 8, 2020 by Atul Kailash
Are we complaining ?
About anything and everything – weather, life, health, people, things that have not gone right.
And we are in this mode without even realizing it.
What should we do?
Well, for starters, know that you hold the “remote control”.
Which is – your choice – to focus on what you can change or do to make things right or better. Whenever you are having a really bad day, bring in – perspective.
Check the silver lining with the cloud.
Bring appreciation into your life.
Establish the “No Complaining Rule”.
This is a lot easier for people who have to listen to you.
Surprise yourself.
Bring joy.
Seek happiness.
Life is so much better than is seen.
“We were put into this world of wonders and beauty with a special ability to appreciate them, to enjoy life – that is, to be happy.” – Robert Baden-Powell
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Let go …

Posted on April 3, 2020 by Atul Kailash
Everything happens for a reason. Acknowledge that. Accept that.
All the past events that occurred have culminated to bring us to this moment, where we stand today.
Once more. At a crossroads. The perennial question. Choice. Always. Over and over. Again and again. This or that. Here or there. Why or why not. ‘To be or not to be’.
All the moments that have passed. Making choices. Deluding ourselves to believe that it is our choices which brought us where we stand today.
What if ….
we choose to let go,
we will ourselves to move on,
we consciously release the control,
we detach from the desire of outcome,
we relinquish the right,
we accept ‘Whatever will be, will be’.
Could it be that what happens next will be different? Is not letting go, a choice? Moving on, a choice. Releasing, a choice. Accepting, a choice?
Whatever we believe, the power to make a choice is a conundrum, humanity has to live with. Ergo, the only thing that remains is whether we make the right choice. The beautiful twist here is that inherently, each and every one of us, knows right from wrong. And at every given moment we can truly choose the right over the wrong. Alas, humanity has coloured itself in so many layers of separation, cloaks of biases, we have started believing everything is about me, not we. I not us.
We need to trust in the process of life, that there is a favourable wind that will steer our ship correctly, when we let go.  As men are meant to be sailing the river of life, not stay anchored at the Port.
No matter how dark the situation, let us always believe in the voice, inside us, to make the right choice. And everytime you trust that voice, you make the right choice. And with each right choice, the voice gets stronger and your ship moves forward. In the right direction. Towards the true goal.
“Sometimes all you can do is accept there’s not much you can do. And sometimes all you can control is how well you let go control.” – Lori Deschene
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Cause and Effect.

Posted on November 25, 2019 by Atul Kailash
Cause and Effect. Unending cycles. Universally accepted law. How do we truly realize that significance. Many would have us believe that, humans are toys created by God – for his enjoyment. How utterly naive.
God has not made us just his playthings. He has given us freedom – to choose. Between right and wrong, between good and bad, between joy and despair, between positives and negativity – every moment of our life.
Why then, are we letting our life run on autopilot mode? With hardly any conscious acknowledgement. Falling into patterns, unbreakable spirals and loops. Subconsciously, repeating the same but expecting changed results. Awaiting different effect.
Take a few moments to pause, reflect, think. What did you just do? The action. Was it conscious or reflex? Active thinking or reactive?
Know and believe. You can stop. You can change. You have the choice. You don’t have to blindly follow the emotional and mental dictates arising from habits and reactions.
Create your future. You are responsible for the effect. And therefore you can influence the cause. Changing the course of the next cause – effect cycle.
It is all your thoughts and your beliefs and your active conscious awareness ! 
“Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Inspired by Bodhi Shuddaanandaji
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It won’t, if you will it

Posted on November 18, 2019 by Atul Kailash
Do you find yourself feeling anxious?
What is anxiety?
Not knowing what the future will bring us is anxiety. But why do we fret over this. Because, anxiety stems from worry. And worry is the repository of the past. Worries are those un-manifested ‘what ifs’.
Either, they never happened, in which case, there should be no cause for worry. Even if something did happen, was it really that bad? Worry is that formless fear, related to past events, imagining worst case scenarios, and magnifying them to levels they unfathomable. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of loneliness, fear of isolation. It’s not like anything happened. It’s only that, we have convinced ourselves, ‘it will’. Leading to anxiety. Anxiety, therefore becomes the possible manifestation of the worry that may be.
Ask yourself,
‘Is this really true?,
Can it be true?,
How many of my past worries have come true?’.
Now, add in some happy and optimistic thoughts. Give yourself a choice. And a chance. Spend more time with optimism. With nice thoughts. Happiness. The future is a cheerful place. Today is better than yesterday. Now, where is the time to worry? There is no worry, no anxiety if you don’t give place to it. Anxiety won’t, if you will it so.
“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs.” – Wayne Dyer
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Should ? Must !

Posted on May 20, 2015 by Atul Kailash

“Does what goes on inside show on the outside?,” young Vincent van Gogh despaired in a moving letter to his brother while floundering to find his purpose. “Someone has a great fire in his soul and nobody ever comes to warm themselves at it, and passers-by see nothing but a little smoke at the top of the chimney.”

And yet every day, countless hearths and hearts grow ashen in cubicles around the world as we succumb to the all too human tendency toward choosing what we should be doing in order to make a living over what we must do in order to feel alive.
Should is how other people want us to live our lives. It’s all of the expectations that others layer upon us. Sometimes, Shoulds are small, seemingly innocuous, and easily accommodated. “You should listen to that song,” for example. At other times, Shoulds are highly influential systems of thought that pressure and, at their most destructive, coerce us to live our lives differently. Echoing Eleanor Roosevelt’s famous admonition – “When you adopt the standards and the values of someone else … you surrender your own integrity,  …. become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being.”

Must is different. Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s that which calls to us most deeply. It’s our convictions, our passions, our deepest held urges and desires – unavoidable, undeniable, and inexplicable. Unlike Should, Must doesn’t accept compromises. Must is when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own – and this allows us to cultivate our full potential as individuals. To choose Must is to say yes to hard work and constant effort, to say yes to a journey without a road map or guarantees, and in so doing, to say yes to what Joseph Campbell called “the experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.”

One of the most common ways in which we imprison ourselves is by comparing ourselves to others. Finding our situation inferior we tend to blame first – the circumstances that we feel were unfair, then the people we believe were responsible for those circumstances, or some abstract element of fate we think was at play. The catch is that we end up judging our circumstances against others’ outcomes, forgetting that hard work and hard choices are responsible for the metamorphosis from circumstance to outcome.

If you want to know Must, get to know Should. This is hard work. Really hard work. We unconsciously imprison ourselves to avoid our most primal fears. We choose Should because choosing Must is terrifying, incomprehensible. Our prison is constructed from a lifetime of Shoulds, the world of choices we’ve unwittingly agreed to, the walls that alienate us from our truest, most authentic selves. Should is the doorkeeper to Must. And just as you create your prison, you can set yourself free.
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