Each one of us may have been in these situations. There is a deadline to make, and we maybe did not realize that somebody may have needed us. Possibly, they simply asked: “Could you help me fix the photocopier? Could you just take this call?” Instead, so focused were we on what we think was ‘the right thing to be doing’ we do not ‘see’ these moments and we don’t cherish these truly important times in our lives when people seek our help. These are little moments where we could dip inside and use love, compassion or care.
To build meaningful relationships, people need to be not ‘just there’, but ‘emotionally available’.
The available partner is eager for introducing you and making you a part of their inner social circle. They are keen to learn and hope to become a part of your circle too.
The available partner is open about their life. And quite clear about where you stand with them. They like sharing their feelings and want you to reciprocate.
The available partner is excited by your emotions and feelings, which indicate that a closeness is developing between the two of you. It means you are investing in them and they are investing in you. There is a ‘want’ to love and be loved.
The available partner is all excited to learn about you. The more they know, the more the connection grows. And they want to share as much as they can with you.
The available partner is eager to share. Even the things they may be apprehensive about. They are eager for both to discover more about each other.
Let’s end the rat race. Let’s nurture relationships.
“Where would you be without friends? The people to pick you up when you need lifting? We come from homes far from perfect, so you end up almost parent and sibling to your friends – your own chosen family. There’s nothing like a really loyal, dependable, good friend. Nothing.” – Jennifer Aniston
Circles In The Sand 